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My narcissistic mom hates my husband, but wants to be our real estate agent. Help!

Question: "My mom and I have had a rocky relationship in the past, but it came to a head when my mom moved in with my husband and I a few years ago. She lost her job shortly after moving in, and stopped paying her rent but continued to go out with friends, travel, and get packages. When confronted, things didn't go well. After several explosive fights we finally asked her to leave. Everything was blamed on my husband because, according to her, he changed me when I married him. Therapy helped me learn that I've been suffering from narcissistic abuse and I now understand the boundaries needed to protect myself.  

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We didn't have much contact with her after her eviction, but she pushed to see us soon after I gave birth to our first daughter. We were in this weird limbo where she pretended nothing happened, except she acted like my husband was invisible. This led to awkward visits and eventually we just stopped inviting her over. During this time, she got into the real estate business. We decided to sell our house and buy another, but went with another agent as I didn't really feel comfortable having my house sold by someone who acted as if my husband wasn't alive. I found out shortly after the sale that she had calculated exactly how much she would have made if we had hired her and was telling family members (mainly my siblings) that I had cheated her out of thousands of dollars. This didn't go over well.