Gary Chapman’s Five Love Languages has sold more than 12 million copies and shows no signs of slowing down; every year, it sells more copies than the year before.
Gary talks about why the book has resonated as deeply as it has and how using the Five Love Languages at work can greatly improve employee satisfaction. We also drill down on how the love languages can impact your marriage and your parenting.
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The 5 Love Languages of Appreciation in the Workplace
The 5 Love Languages of Children
The 5 Love Languages of Teenagers
A Teen’s Guide to the 5 Love Languages
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3 Insights from Gary
1. To love your spouse well you have to learn his or her language
Every person has a primary love language – Words of Affirmation, Gifts, Acts of Service, Quality Time and Physical Touch.
Couples who say I just don’t feel like you love me anymore often are attempting to show love to each other, but their just not acting it out in the love language their spouse responds to. The best way to overcome this challenge is to study and learn about your significant other’s love language. Learn how to speak it to them on a regular basis and your relationship will grow like never before.
2. To love your kids well you have to learn their languages
Often time kids will say My parents don’t love me. When they are the thing their parents love most. This disconnect comes because the parents are not loving their child in the love language he or she needs most. If you want your relationship with your kids to grow, try starting with how they feel love.
As leaders, most of the parents within our churches and organizations will struggle with this at some point in their parenting life. We as leaders can be helpful by encouraging them to learn and speak the love languages of their children as often as possible. Here’s a great
3. If you want to improve your company learn your team’s languages
The 5 love languages don’t just apply at home, they apply in the workplace too. A lot of managers tell their teams that they appreciate them, but that only works for the employees who respond to Words of Affirmation. If you want to be effective at expressing appreciation in the workplace you have to individualize it for every person on your team.
Love languages at work are not always the same for people as they are at home. When a team begins to speak each other’s love languages, the company culture can improve exponentially.
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