Sex takes down more than its fair share of leaders and families.
So why is sex so seductive?
How do you open up an honest dialogue about sex with your kids or with your church? I interview XXXChurch.com’s Ryan Russell.
Welcome to Episode 14 of the podcast.
Guest Links: Ryan Russell
Links Mentioned in this Episode
Ron Jeremy and Anti-Porn XXXchurch Pastor, America’s Ultimate Odd Couple
Open: What Happens When You Get Real, Get Honest and Get Accountable by Craig Gross and Adam Palmer
3 Things You Can Do Right Away
It’s tough for someone to be honest with their struggles, especially when sex is involved. There’s a lack of transparency – people will talk around it, but they won’t talk about it. Here’s how you can start a conversation about sex in a healthy way:
- Start small. Any healthy conversation starts small, and it grows. It’s like having a conversation with your kids. The first time you may have a conversation about sex with your kids, it’s one-on-one. It’s comfortable. It’s an introduction, a shorter conversation, but it’s not the end of the conversation. The same model can be used when shepherding or leading a church. That conversation starts smaller and becomes more frequent with a broader audience.
- Start with someone you trust. Get comfortable with your church staff and your eldership and develop a plan to pass the message along to other ministries. When you open up the conversation as a leader, you give permission to have the conversation others don’t know how to start.
- Lead with love. Starting with a condemning message will push people away from the conversation. Accountability is a critical component for people, but the hardest part is the initial conversation, and the second hardest part is having those conversations before, not after temptation sets in. So many people see accountability as a negative thing. It’s like, “Oh, I’ve gotta confess when I’m busted.” Rather than making it a shameful thing, make being open a positive experience. It can be desirable to live a transparent life and answer to what God has called us to be. In the end, the focus should be on relationships, not on outcomes.
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