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But You LOOK Good: How to Encourage and Understand People Living with Illness and Pain Kindle Edition

by Sherri Connell (Author), Wayne Connell (Author), Dr. Jeffrey Boyd (Foreword) Format: Kindle Edition
4.4 4.4 out of 5 stars 71 ratings
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Do your loved ones have a hard time understanding your chronic illness or pain, because to them you LOOK fine? But You LOOK Good is a book that gives those living with chronic illness and pain a voice about how they feel, what they need and how others can be an encouragement to them. It is a convenient, informative way to educate loved ones about what people living with ongoing illness and pain struggle with, fight for and need from their friends and family. It is easy to read, gives practical ideas on how loved ones can be supportive and is not too long for readers to lose interest!
But You LOOK Good gets to the heart of why our friends and family have difficulty with understanding ongoing illness and pain. It serves as a tool to help explain to loved ones how extreme fatigue, pain, dizziness, cognitive impairments and other symptoms can be limiting, even though the person may not look sick or in pain. Moreover, it gives them simple, pragmatic ways to truly be an encouragement, what to say, what not to say and how to help. Often loved ones are enlightened as to why their well-meaning advice is not always well-received. It is cherished by both those living with illness or injury, as well as those who love them!
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About the Author

Wayne Connell's experience includes that of a professional, multitasking husband caregiver with an extensive background in management, media and technology. He obtained a BA in Television & Radio Broadcasting and Computer Information Systems from Colorado Christian University. Wayne has additional training in business and public speaking. He also is an avid writer and top 10 blogger on Disability.gov's Disability Blog.

Sherri Connell was an extremely active person who loved her careers, singing and dancing in musicals, riding her horse and lifting weights. In college, she studied Music Theatre, and then obtained 2 Bachelor Degrees in Business with a Minor in Liberal Arts.

Although Sherri had enormous plans for her life, just as she was plotting out her Master's Degree, she was stopped in her tracks at the age of 27. Starting with another winter bout of pneumonia, Sherri became paralyzed, so sick she could barely sit up and was in horrible pain. She was hospitalized and diagnosed with Progressive Multiple Sclerosis and Late-Chronic Lyme Disease.

Suddenly, she went from "on the go" 24/7 to struggling just to get to a doctor's appointment or take a shower. In addition to MS and Lyme Disease, Sherri lives with Chemical Sensitivity (MCS), multiple food allergies, Traumatic Brain Injury (TBI) and Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD).

Wayne married Sherri in 1994. Wayne just knew he wanted to spend the rest of his life with Sherri, even if it meant dealing with pain and suffering. However, Wayne had no idea that his decision would lead to having a heart for all who live with chronic illness and pain.

Wayne's desire to help others who struggle with disabilities has become a passion for him. Wayne has seen so many friends and families torn apart by chronic conditions. This is why he founded the organization, the Invisible Disabilities Association (www.InvisibleDisabilities.org).

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  • ASIN ‏ : ‎ B00NKRYTCA
  • Publisher ‏ : ‎ Invisible Disabilities Association (September 13, 2014)
  • Publication date ‏ : ‎ September 13, 2014
  • Language ‏ : ‎ English
  • File size ‏ : ‎ 219 KB
  • Text-to-Speech ‏ : ‎ Enabled
  • Screen Reader ‏ : ‎ Supported
  • Enhanced typesetting ‏ : ‎ Enabled
  • X-Ray ‏ : ‎ Not Enabled
  • Word Wise ‏ : ‎ Not Enabled
  • Sticky notes ‏ : ‎ On Kindle Scribe
  • Print length ‏ : ‎ 85 pages
  • Customer Reviews:
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Wayne Connell’s experience includes that of a professional, multitasking husband caregiver with an extensive background in management, media and technology. He obtained a BA in Television & Radio Broadcasting and Computer Information Systems from Colorado Christian University. Wayne has additional training in business and public speaking. He also is an avid writer and top 10 blogger on Disability.gov’s Disability Blog.

Sherri Connell was an extremely active person who loved her careers, singing and dancing in musicals, riding her horse and lifting weights. In college, she studied Music Theatre, and then obtained 2 Bachelor Degrees in Business with a Minor in Liberal Arts.

Although Sherri had enormous plans for her life, just as she was plotting out her Master's Degree, she was stopped in her tracks at the age of 27. Starting with another winter bout of pneumonia, Sherri became paralyzed, so sick she could barely sit up and was in horrible pain. She was hospitalized and diagnosed with Progressive Multiple Sclerosis and Late-Chronic Lyme Disease. Suddenly, she went from "on the go" 24/7 to struggling just to get to a doctor's appointment or take a shower. In addition to MS and Lyme Disease, Sherri lives with Chemical Sensitivity (MCS), multiple food allergies, Traumatic Brain Injury (TBI) and Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD).

Wayne married Sherri in 1994. People are surprised when they find out Wayne asked Sherri to marry him, despite her disabilities. Wayne just knew he wanted to spend the rest of his life with Sherri, even if it meant dealing with pain and suffering. However, Wayne had no idea that his decision would lead to having a heart for all who live with chronic illness and pain. Wayne's desire to help others who struggle with disabilities has become a passion for him. Wayne has seen so many friends, families and even churches torn apart by chronic conditions. This is why he founded the organizations, Where Is God Ministries (www.WhereIsGod.net) and the Invisible Disabilities Association (www.InvisibleDisabilities.org).

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Sylvan Leef
5.0 out of 5 stars benefit of the doubt!
Reviewed in the United States on November 6, 2015
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I have yet to read it but I'm looking forward to this book.
The federal government itself states that LESS than 2% of the disabled in this nation are in wheel chairs. The rest of us bumble along as best we can (usually withOUT a walker or cane) and are almost always chastised by the general public OR the police as lying about disabilities. That is frustrating to the disabled.
My doctor states flatly that the entire American medical body is making EVERY EFFORT to make the disabled look like everyone else, to keep their vulnerabilities less obvious.
This is making SERIOUS difficulties for the disabled. Too bad that so many think they're seeing cheaters--including the police in Oregon
What is wrong with those strangers who want a full medical report?
oh, yes. there ARE cheaters. But the reality is that the are FEW.
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Lois
5.0 out of 5 stars This is a great quick read
Reviewed in the United States on January 4, 2016
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This is a great quick read. It's nice knowing that I am not the only one who goes through this. So much truth. People need to become educated about invisible disabilities. I don't use a wheelchair and my arms are too weak to support myself with a cane or walker. So I just do what I have to do. I have bad days and worse days, but this is the hand I was dealt so I do what I have to do. It's very hard getting dirty looks and hearing comments about me parking in a handicap spot. Especially when I took the time to put makeup on and dress presentable. We can look good and still be disabled. People wake up!!!!
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Lin N.
4.0 out of 5 stars Probably Worth Reading
Reviewed in the United States on November 16, 2015
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I didn't know what to expect from this small book. Having a 30-year chronic no-name digestive problem, I was hoping to learn how to comfort others with chronic "invisible" diseases. At times, I felt a bit angry with some of the suggestions in this book; however, at the same time, I understood that even though people often say things that they think are encouraging or challenging to the hurting listener, they are trying to be helpful. In their feeling of helplessness, they want the struggling person to get well! Those of us who have chronic "invisible" diseases must take a deep breath, smile, and graciously thank those who just want to "fix our problem." What we need most is an understanding hug and perhaps an offer of assistance where needed without a lot of words. If nothing else, this book gives the reader much to ponder if someone they know is chronically ill but "looks good" despite the illness.
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Connie Gray
3.0 out of 5 stars I'm hoping that sharing it with them will help them understand how to better talk with me about my chronic pain and fatigue
Reviewed in the United States on June 4, 2015
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This book articulates the type of frustrating interactions I've had with some family and friends. I'm hoping that sharing it with them will help them understand how to better talk with me about my chronic pain and fatigue. Compassion, not criticism!
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Cam's Mommy
5.0 out of 5 stars A book I recommend for anyone with an "invisible illness" to give to ...
Reviewed in the United States on July 1, 2015
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A book I recommend for anyone with an "invisible illness" to give to their family to read so that they know how they should handle your illness. It might help them when they want to tell you how great you look and don't understand how horrible you can feel since you look so good. Or how they don't understand why you cannot do something when you look so good. I would buy copies and give them out as a Christmas gift to your family, the more knowledge they have into how you are feeling the better. After all knowledge is power!!
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Dwayne McClellan
5.0 out of 5 stars Disability Subject Matter Expert
Reviewed in the United States on September 15, 2020
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I joined this organization three weeks ago, and everyone who is invisbly disabled needs to read this book 📚 in Kindle form or paperback/hardback book, as well as every family/friend. This is a great book to educate the public about invisible conditions. Especially being that this is the couple's private life.
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Hypnojunkie
5.0 out of 5 stars "I miss me" and other key concepts of invisible conditions explained right here
Reviewed in the United States on February 26, 2015
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For anyone who has a loved one with an invisible condition or suffer with one themselves, this book is the answer to the questions asked. I'm going to share this book with those that day the understand and don't and with those that clearly don't get it. I often say "I miss me" and when I saw that phrase in the book, I knew I want alone. This is a book to gift to others. Give it away and help educate the masses that really don't "get it."
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RareReviewer
2.0 out of 5 stars Okay but can get info on internet
Reviewed in the United States on May 4, 2023
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I wanted to add to coffee table so people would want to pick it up or I could lend it out. But the cover looks very dated. I wish it looked modern and scientific or graphically eye catching with modern look, so people would want to pick it up and not think it’s from decades ago.
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G. Payne
5.0 out of 5 stars A must for sufferers and those who want to help
Reviewed in the United Kingdom on December 8, 2014
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I bought this book recently and for me as a sufferer of an invisible disability I couldn't put it down. I found it so helpful and encouraging, that what I had gone through, in deed still go through regularly, others have to deal with as well, I'm not the only one. It also gave me an understanding for people who don't suffer and therefore don't understand what it means to the likes of me. It put into words what I find hard to get across. It was just the boost I needed. I will be keeping a copy on my coffee table for those who want to know. Thanks Wayne & Sherri
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Hayley Green (nee)
5.0 out of 5 stars Excellent for anyone with an invisible illness
Reviewed in the United Kingdom on March 16, 2015
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The title of this book caught my eye.. As I am often told 'You look good'!

The book has so many ways of describing an invisible illness, more than I could ever think of. It's suitable for both sufferers and people who haven't got an illness as you can look at it from either perspective. Lots of info and even though I battle chronic illness every day it has opened my eyes!
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