You might not know Austin Carlile by name, but if you like heavy metal music, you’ve definitely heard of his band, Of Mice and Men. Carlile has Marfan syndrome, a genetic disorder that affects his connective tissues and has forced him to have more than a half-dozen surgeries. Plus, it was the reason Of Mice and Men canceled tour dates this fall.

Carlile appreciates the outpouring of support from well-wishers, but he wishes people wouldn’t say, “Hurry up and get better!” That’s not a reality when you live with a chronic condition. And that’s an important reminder for all of us. Check out Carlile’s full explanation below: