First off, I’m certainly not the expert here. Yes, I have spoken at three men’s conferences, but not about these kinds of issues—things other than relationships, of interest to men (diet, politics, crypto).
I ask him questions about Sexual Market Value theory, MGTOW, r/K selection, Alpha/Beta differences, how to improve your SMV, and the benefits of coaching. Then, we turn the table and he asks me questions about diet (paleo, keto), fasting, and gut health.
How to connect with Noah:
SMV4K.com — Raise your Sexual Market Value and find your ideal spouse, for Red-Pilled, Rational, K-selected people
30 days, again. For this post. That brings my total banned time since 2015 pretty close to a full year.
I guess it goes against “community standards” to kill invaders in what is an invasion. Rather, it implies that community standards hold that we must let them in, feed, clothe, house them, and let them vote.
I agree with Trump.
UPDATE: Facebook appeared to give me an opportunity to dispute their finding, so I wrote this is the space provided:
I shared a post by MSN.com, normal established news column.
What I wrote in the introduction is “kill invaders.”
You can argue whether a particular mass of people are invaders or not (Trump and Acosta had such an argument) and that’s fine. I’ll engage in that debate, but the notion that killing invaders to your community, intent on doing you harm is against standards is far fetched.
History is replete with thousands of examples of doing just that, toward the general aim of protecting community and advancing civilization.
A longtime Facebook friend and smart chick posted the following this morning:
Throughout the Kavanaugh controversy, I kept seeing the fact that “only 2-3% of rape allegations are false” as the basis given for immediate belief of all claims, even when no corroborating evidence was presented. The implication is that the other 97-98% of accusations are true, so skepticism of a claim is outrageous, ignorant, and even misogynistic. I did some digging because this oft-repeated “fact” made me curious…
And I found that this supposed “fact” is NOT even CLOSE to being accurate so far as the known statistics are concerned; actually, there are more false or unfounded allegations than those proven as true. In a study supported by the National Center for the Prosecution of Violence Against Women and covered by The Washington Post (neither are “right wing”), here are the statistics we have available: 7.1% of allegations were classified as “false,” and another 8.5% fit the definition of “baseless.” That’s just about 16%, or nearly 1:7. That’s a frighteningly large number to begin with, but if we add the 17.9% of claims that were closed due to failing to meet the criteria for a sexual assault crime, AND the 28.6% categorized as “suspended/inactivated” due to insufficient evidence of a crime itself, we get a whopping 62% of rape allegations being either false, baseless, not a sexual assault crime, or not having sufficient evidence to be referred to prosecution.
My conclusion from this is that while any good person will have empathy for someone claiming to be a victim of sexual assault/rape, and I certainly do, it is both ethical and logical to have a neutral stance on any allegation not proven in a court of law, ESPECIALLY those that go no further than public/social media accusations. Sexual crimes are indeed hard to prosecute successfully, but the foundation of the U.S. criminal justice system is DUE PROCESS, and the notion that it is better that the guilty go free than that the innocent are punished.
Interesting aside: another Facebook dude did some digging and guess what? Since the paper’s publication (in 2009 or 10, I believe) it has been hosted on its site of origin, the National District Attorneys Association, and has always been available.
BUT…. it was removed from the site between August 8 and August 15, 2018, which is a cinch to verify via the Way Back Machine, a web archive that periodically takes “snapshots.” It took one on August 8 and the link was valid (see?). The next one it took was August 15 and it’s a 404 error (see?), as is every other subsequent snapshot. Hmmmm….
So there you go. I’m sure it’s just an innocent oversight.
…I spent last week down in Southern California visiting Beatrice and the doggies (so much fun…max doggie time). On the way back Sunday, I did a video about the Kavanaugh debacle. My thoughts, impressions, conclusions.
So you may have noticed that the #BelieveWomen schtick is morphing into the #BelieveSurvivors schtick.
The former is, of course, untenable nonsense no more meaningful or compelling than, say, #BelieveOneLeggedDwarfsBornOnTuesdays. In other words, it’s ARBITRARY. You could single out any particular identity and command: believe this identity without evidence or corroborating testimony. It’s only BECAUSE #Feminism that the arbitrary nature of it has not resulted in its advocates being laughed out of the universe.
Now enter the latter. First, it’s AMBIGUOUS. Survivors of what, exactly? In some sense, all humans are survivors. In fact, we have all survived the uncertain outcome of being born. So, if everyone is a survivor, then everyone is to be believed on say-so alone, and so the intent of the hashtag is being undercut, rendering it meaningless.
Second, it’s a question begging logical fallacy. Its premise (survivor) assumes the truth of the conclusion (survivor of sexual assault) instead of supporting it. Other than Ad Hominem (rampant everywhere), Begging the Question is perhaps the second most common logical fallacy and also the least understood.
Stefan Molyneux had his own take.
So much more I could write about it and have, but it’s pointless. Huge swaths of humanoid organisms, male and female alike, have exposed themselves as a sort of primordial scum where facts, due process, presumption of innocence for accused, common rules of evidence, hearsay, physical evidence, and witness corroboration mean exactly nothing to them in the pursuit of political goals.
And they lost, badly. They would have won every time in similar circumstances going back to at least Ronald Regan, and probably then, too.
Trump is a very different sort of animal, the most different of any President anyone has experienced in their lifetimes.
Finally, by my calculation, 62% of women who raise these allegations don’t really give a shit about women at all. They care about whatever leverage they can gain. It’s they who don’t take rape seriously. For them, it’s just something they might be able to use to get what they want on many levels of entitlement, hubris, and parasitism. And, so, over half of resources devoted to investigating, prosecuting, and convicting criminality in this realm is devoted to cunty bullshit instead of being more effective towards actual crimes so as to curtail the incidence of future victimization by getting the real predators put away.
Do you really still buy into this leftist political bullshit? How long are you going to hold out, because this time, finally, the left was met head on, and they got hammered with prejudice.
And then, Facebook summarily deletes the post, blocks Curt for another 30 days for the umpteenth time, and of course, my shares of the post are gone as though they never existed, akin to Soviet Era expungements.
Curt, of course, had the wherewithal to save his work so that he was able to put it on the Propertarianism blog. I’m crossposting it here.
The female of our species, or more correctly, the female mind in our species, is extremely susceptible to individual psychosis and solipsism, and even more so, herd panic, trend and consensus; and verbalizing those behaviors by drama, outburst, disapproval, shaming, ridicule, rallying, gossiping, and reputation destruction that never ceases.
This is the reason why women’s testimony has been discounted throughout history; why the cancer of abrahamism was spread through women; why women defected against their men and their civilization yet again, to feminism-postmodernism; and why there are continuous calls for “women must be heard”; and then, not surprisingly, counter-to-all-evidence that “women must be believed”. The female lacks the degree of male agency because she is more dependent upon the panic of herd than the hunting of the pack.
It is rather obvious that once given the franchise under the presumption of agency, that women took out their anger on the church in europe, and on men in america. It’s rather obvious that as much as marxism was designed to appeal to and rally men at the bottom, that feminism and postmodernism were designed to appeal to and rally women as was christianity. It is rather obvious that women’s urge to nest and preen are more easily manipulated by advertising marketing and media.
But Truth is Truth. The feminine mind lacks agency regardless of the sex of its bearer. And we cannot both preserve our civilization which is the originator of truth, reason, science, and all that comes from it by once again submitting to the herd of the female in this modern era as we did in the ancient.
“Herd Panic”, and “herd consensus”, as well as the series solipsism, psychosis, and disapproval, shaming, ridicule, outburst, rallying gossiping and reputation destruction as a means of obscuring the truth due to lack of agency and fear of falling out of sync with the herd, must become part of our conscious vocabulary and argument such that we bring the distinction between lack of agency, falsehood and fear, versus agency, truth and reason.
Lacking agency means you are not yet human and therefore not worthy of or capable of reciprocity any more than is a child – but require parenting.
It is truth that in modernity we have greater prosperity and as such greater ability to absorb the damage of the feminine mind than in the past. But that reservoir is not limitless.
That same prosperity however does leave us a choice: we can oppress one another, or we can revolt and separate, and develop feminine (failing) dysgenic orders and return to the animals and another dark age, or masculine competitive eugenic orders, that will continue our transcendence.
It’s time to choose which of those consequences we will pursue.
It’s my purpose here to just post it, not provide any supporting or detracting commentary. That can easily be done by everyone in comments. Rather, my purpose is to simply promulgate by other means that which Facebook deems its account holders and content creators incapable of drawing their own judgments about and arguing accordingly if they see fit.
Women are wonderful, and superior at the same things men are not. The problem was extending the franchise without producing a market for differences between the genders in the production of commons. We created houses for the aristocracy (monarchy), nobility (lords), middle class (commons). But when we added labor (labor), and then added women (women), we did not add houses for them, and thereby failed to grasp what we had done: created a market for the production of commons between the classes that prohibited the abuse by any in gaining majority. The problem was, that people become increasingly incompetent in matters of the day as their responsibilities decline. So without requirements for children and property it is almost impossible to create a civil discourse and market between the classes – since the people in the market for commons must demonstrate prior ability to succeed in markets of voluntary cooperation.
So there we have it. Discuss all you like, adults. The post remains published.
Makes you want to rush right out and buy it, right? After all, nothing sells like resigning to the worst we can do, rather than constantly pushing forward towards the best that can be done.
Is this where we’re at, now? Give up? Resign? Let’s just be fat and ugly, blowing sweat-hog farts in the general direction of naysayers?
I’m not defending Cosmopolitan, per se. It’s a bit of a smarmy brand that does engender the worst things about “us” (females), draped in hot chicks on the cover. But at least it’s a brand that has always inspired being hot looking, not being fooled, and getting your best chick game on. You get to be as stupid as you want for any of the rest of it.
Being hot looking or inspiring to be hot, gives you many more options once you attain or re-attain that status, ladies, and dudes are always in your corner for looking hotter.
Tess Holliday says to kiss her sweaty, ugly, and fat ass.
Let’s illustrate more.
Hey, let’s put a 1970’s-era AMC Pacer on the cover of Hot Rod! After all, no guy is going to buy or build that rod. They might as well give up.
Or, hey, let’s put a Tesla on the cover. It’s the new thing.
…I’ve got an idea.
Let’s put a washed out, toothless crack whore on the cover of Easy Riders, sitting on a Vespa scooter!
Do you get my take, now? I really don’t care that much about the societal degradation and celebrating the basest element of its slide, or, rocket ship to hell. What I care about is destroying a good business brand that was so hard fought to achieve.
Why is it so much the propensity of the left to be nihilist, to shit on their own doorstep, to regard everything as the enemy that needs to be destroyed?
Well this one is so easy it’ll be short. Here’s the direct link to the video. I particularly like New York strips for the AirFryer because they tend to be uniform in size the thickness so the same cooking time and temperature always works with no guesswork.
For the last 7 months I’ve been on the sidelines. It’s so weird that personal issues coincided to the exact day that the general crypto market reached its peak in early January and has been declining steadily ever since. The public portfolio is 20% in the red.
I’ve been ramping up creating cooking videos for my new Patreon venture. I’ve rolled out a few already which I’ll be posting here as well, and I have a backlog of about a half dozen. So, off and running. I’m enjoying it and yes, I do have work to do refining video presentation, though without a lot of fluff. Goal is to keep the videos focused on the food, 5-10 minutes each.
…Well, let’s say Modified Potato Hack. If you don’t know what the potato hack is, just Google the term, or, potato diet. Essentially, it’s intended to be a short-term intervention done periodically to lose weight, maintain weight in your ideal range, or even to achieve a better sodium to potassium ratio which tends to lower blood pressure in most people.
The pure potato hack is intended to be boiled or baked potatoes with spices and condiments only as your exclusive caloric intake. It works because potatoes only (not fried or deep fried) are one of the most satiating foods ever tested in controlled conditions; meaning, most people can’t eat enough of them to maintain energy balance and profound weight loss is the result.
10-12 medium russet potatoes, peeled and quartered (optional…you can leave skins or some skins on if you prefer)
2 medium or 1 huge yellow onion(s), chopped
1/2 pound bacon, chopped and fried to crispy bacon bits, drained of fat
Half handful of dried parsley
2-3 cups 1% milk
Salt and pepper to taste
To read the rest and watch the video, click on over to Patreon. This one is free public access so that folks can see what they’ll be getting before becoming a Patron.
Elixa Probiotic is a British biotech manufacturer in Oxford, UK. U.S. Demand is now so high they’ve established distribution centers in Illinois, Nevada, and New Jersey.
Still, sell-outs happen regularly, so order nowto avoid a waiting list.
In January of 2013, Beatrice and I did a Cabo trip. Though we’d been to Mexico a few times, this was the first to the tip of Baja. I had zero intention of buying into a timeshare; but, I was already an experienced vacation rental owner, owing to a single property—our vacation home in the Sierras—that had become so popular that it was rented almost year round and I made 3-4 times as much as renting it conventionally would have. Of course, this requires a desirable place people want to vacation at.
But my [eventual] friend Scott got me. He began with his standard pitch and I kept saying no. Once he realized I was running numbers in my head, knowing they wouldn’t work without even having to get out a napkin, he began dealing with me as a vacation rental entrepreneur. They have an app for that. Several iterations later, I was calculating on the back of a napkin (literally), and he had provided a calculator, and we were in business for 10 weeks per year over about 10 years (100 weeks to sell). The capital investment was about $50K, 20K of that down and the rest financed.
By April, I was making bookings via VRBO. It worked so well that by February of 2014, I doubled down and bought another contract, upping my availability to 20 weeks per year (now 200 weeks to sell over 10 years). And, that worked so well that by February of 2015, I tripled down with a third contact, upping my availability to 30 weeks per year. To date, I have done 154 bookings for a gross of $377K. However, many of those are for 3-4 night stays at a nightly rate that’s about 30-50% less than your average Expedia deal. Those bookings don’t go against my 30 weeks per year under contract, just a fringe benefit.
So that’s my nutshell story about a serendipitous business opportunity I grabbed over the sipping of Pina Coladas on the 11th floor balcony of this resort.
Here’s the gist of how to book here, which is just my canned blurb that goes out.
Thank you for your interest in Grand Solmar Land’s End Resort & Spa. I have 30 weeks per year of either the 1BR Master Suite (1,250 sf) or the Grand Studio (740 sf) available from January through mid-December of each year.
*** SPECIAL 3-NIGHT STUDIO DEAL. ANY SATURDAY, SUNDAY, and MONDAY…or MONDAY, TUESDAY, AND WEDNESDAY NIGHTS THROUGH THE REST OF 2018 for $825 total.
3-NIGHT !BR MASTER SUITE DEAL. ANY FRIDAY, SATURDAY, AND SUNDAY NIGHTS THROUGH THE REST OF 2018 for $1,050 total (subject to availability). ***
Both unit types are all luxurious: full kitchen, balcony, all ocean views, WiFi included, twice daily housekeeping, and room service for food and drinks. Guests can request preferred room location (low floor, high floor, morning sun, afternoon sun, etc.). Both unit types accommodate up to 4 guests and the 1BR and Studio can also be rented together with a “lockoff” door between them, accommodating up to 8 guests total. Since this new resort opened in 2013, I have done over 150 bookings into the property.
I primarily rent 7-night stays. I can book stays of 1-6 nights, but those are at a discounted owner rate set by the resort that’s roughly 30%-50% less than the resort or hotel booking sites charge directly to the public. BUT it’s still way more than the average nightly cost for my 7-night bookings, for which I exclusively control price.
ALL QUOTES ARE 100% TOTAL PRICE. No additional taxes or fees. Currently, rate information is as follows (through mid-December, 2018):
1 Bedroom Master Suite
$2,450, 7-night stay.
$1,950, 7-night stay.
For stays of 3-5 nights, rates change per the resort, please inquire. 5-6 nights are usually more economical at the 7-night rate that I control, even when not all nights are used. Note that I have no nightly rates set on my listings, only the 7-night rate, so what the listing site “quote” is an average. The 7-night rate is accurate.
The Studio (747 sf)
I have still have 7 of 30 weeks available through mid-December 2018, and have started to book for 2019 dates. I also have two 3-night slots in the Studio and one 3-night slot in the 1BR available at deep discounts where I’ve already sold 4 nights for the week. Inquire for a 3-night getaway for Cabo.
Lastly, I’ll emphasize the deals I offer. Let’s use Hotels.com.
These are screen shots. For a 7-night stay in Feb 2019 at Grand Solmar Land’s End Resort & Spa, this is what it would cost for the two unit types I have. $4,030 for the 740sf Studio and $5,240 for the 1,240sf 1BR Suite.
My prices for EXACTLY the same (I have open occupancy, so not a particular unit…but they are appointed identically) are $1,950 and $2,450, respectively, zero taxes or other fees (owner loophole for taxes).
Perhaps that’s why I’ve done those 154 bookings for $377,000 gross over the last five years.
I learned that I had somehow forgotten that there’s a real and genuine social life you can access and that it’s a sad thing that once I did, I felt a certain nostalgia for it—having been so digitally oriented for so long. It’s like waking up from a slumber, a stupor.
It has been an ongoing process of far-from-perfection—not immediate—but it gradually took on a whole different tone than have my previous 12 Facebook bans. In those, I really hated being “cut off” and chomped at the bit to get back on. In this case, I became gradually more comfortable, even going days without checking in much (I can see everything on FB, I just can’t “do” anything) and fewer and fewer days doing stream-of-consciousness stuff via another account. And finally, I began to feel some trepidation about the ban being lifted and going right back into the same cycle. First rule of holes: stop digging.
…One person I thought a lot of over that month is Adam “AB” Dada. He’s quite a character but has also been influential over the years I’ve known him (he dropped 57 comments here about 5-6 years back), to adopt a more dopamine stable, low-reward lifestyle. No, I don’t hang on his every word. I don’t advise that sort of thing for anyone and the best “gurus” are actually attempting to get you to think for yourselves in order to save them time. I see his posts when they pop up (and he just came back to Facebook after 6 months away) and I try to have a logic-nugget stick in my head now and then. For instance—and I can’t quote it because I’m not going to bother trying to find it—in one short post he eschewed all of these affirmations and resolutions people do rather than simply saying “no” to yourself and meaning it.
It’s about the struggle I’ve been dabbling at for a couple of months or so, now about three weeks increasing in earnestness, to simply say NO and really mean it. No resolutions, no affirmations. Just no to immediate high reward things. There are so many, now. Then, being bored when you do actually say no and mean it is, evidence that you’re hooked.
So, there are cycles to break.
Here’s a couple of observations I’ve had in terms of saying no to immediate high-reward things.
There’s always like four things at the ready I could do to avoid something productive. If I can succeed in saying no to each desire in succession, it’s more likely I’m going to do the dishes from last night, make the kitchen spotless and then make a pot of soup, maybe even record it and put it up on my new Kitchen Patreon, write a blog post, go on a hike, or even go on a drive to no place in particular and get one really good photo. And even when productive attempts fail as they often do, that’s information and I’m marginally ahead.
Have you ever had an inkling to maybe take in a movie, so you run through the selections on Netflix and Prime, and before you know it, you’ve just watched 30 minutes or more of trailers without actually watching anything, so you just shut it off and go to sleep an hour earlier?
Number 1 requires the power of NO and sticking to it until you eventually do something that’s better to do. Number 2 is a natural way of easily saying no because for whatever reason, what’s supposed to be an enticing high reward, just isn’t and boredom does a 180 on you.
The mystery and struggle for me, still, is how to get to the relative perfection of number 2, when confronted with far more common number 1 situations.
…Over this last month—and in particular over the last couple of weeks—the most profound thing that happened over this 30-day ban was that I became increasingly uninterested in politics, public policy debate, philosophy on all levels, social justice, the erosion of the sacred, and et cetera, et cetera.
I think I may have spent too much of my life’s capital on all of that, already. I can’t get any of it back. It’s a sunk cost. More accurately, is that it’s a sunk squandering. Cost often implies a loss of investment, which implies that you had some logical reason to gain in the longer run, and loss can be chalked up to tuition in the school of life and business. And yet, there is something in common. In losses related to investment in a goal, you learn and move on, do better next time. In squandering time and money that could be better employed, you just stop doing that. First rule of holes.
…The world, in spite of digital shrinkage, is still a pretty big place and I’m increasingly coming to the realization that all the political banter I’ve promoted and engaged in over decades is a sort of high-reward game of immediate feedback given internet and the hyper-drive of social media and I really just want to sit across from other people and see, hear, and viscerally feel them, face to face.
You “cure” your community of disreputable opinions and behaviors by becoming ignorant of them.
If someone presses you to pay attention, change the topic to something light and funny that is more important to you. Do not give shitty behaviors any attention other than to ostracize people when they commit to those actions around you — after changing the topic often.
I don’t pay attention to any of the modern political bogeymen at all, and if someone in my life brings it up, I bring up something much more important to me like the green of my lawn or the lint on my linen shorts. If they continue to bring it up I tell them they’re boring and annoying and if they’re going to talk about useless topics, they won’t be invited back until they behave.
Let’s go throw a frisbee disc instead.
Leaders don’t let followers drive conversations and activities. Leaders who do become followers.
When I read that I was just scrolling through my feed going “ignore, ignore, ignore” and thinking “I hope I can hold out, at least to 90% level” and then this comes along to quicken my motivation to do something better.
I do want to influence people in meaningful and material ways that actually makes a good-shit difference in their lives.
I’m not asking friends and follower to not talk about or post political stuff…it’s your life and I’m not “unfriending” (it’s a word, now) over it, but I’m going to be doing my damn level best to write stuff that can actually make short and long term differences in peoples’ lives.
I’m tired of being angry about stuff I can’t control, pretending to influence where even when influenced, there are no measurable results, and being frustrated over so much wasted energy and potential surrounding my activities when there is so much good to do and help to put forth.
So, here’s an example of how my evolving approach might tend to be different going forward. This would be a better meme, below, if you just cut off the bottom half with the weirdos and the top with the caption. Re-caption it something like this:
Ignore feminism. Instead, go out and tell charming ladies they’re pretty and that you appreciate their beautification efforts in the world.
Focus on where the true power and influence lies. Point out well dressed pretty ladies to your children.
Recycling back, the Facebook ban was really just the impetus to get me mostly moving in a better direction.
What’s the worst two things I did over the last six months?
The first thing was to get myself wrapped up in a substantial texting banter with a woman because she’s smart on an esoteric intellectual level and shares much in common because of crossing philosophical paths.
I flew out to meet her, in spite of her being with another, but considering a switch. I should have known better than to wrap myself up like that. I’m not 20-something, anymore, where it’s just straight-up predatory pursuit at high energy and misses never matter because you’re always moving forward.
The second was to download about five different “dating” apps on my phone and start swiping right and left.
Both were high-reward obsessions. In the former case, I can recall night after night of just texting banter. In terms of the apps, I’d get these “hi daddy” hits from the younger set and even after due diligence would be head down texting for far too long. It’s time and life squandering.
None of that, anymore.
Instead, I try my best to engage with the real life out there for some period every day. Typically, that’s to get out early and hit the coffee shop, the market, or both. Just a week ago I had accomplished 2-minute-plus conversations with 7 people before 9am (my personal best). Only two were people I had already spoken to at other times. I know the names of every person who works at Cafe Bistro, to which I can walk in 10 minutes. I gather little life tidbits about them, follow-up later, which builds affinity and trust. It builds a human social intimacy that just doesn’t analog to digital.
The other thing I do every day is to not pick up my phone for notifications or texts, but to instead, do pick up my phone to call a friend or family member and chat for a while.
This is all still a struggle and I fail every damn day on one level or the other. But I recognize those failures and rather than give up, I just keep saying NO to myself on doing time of my life squandering things, trusting that someday it’s going to stick and keep sticking, up to the point where I begin to wonder what was so enticing about any of it it in the first place.
Ultimately, saying no to yourself essentially means: I have better things to do. Well, then do them. You only have so many hours in a day.
Elixa Probiotic is a British biotech manufacturer in Oxford, UK. U.S. Demand is now so high they’ve established distribution centers in Illinois, Nevada, and New Jersey.
Still, sell-outs happen regularly, so order nowto avoid a waiting list.
Yes, except for the ones who for whatever reason get cut after being intact and having sex. They overwhelmingly report negative experience after. Hard to claim they just don’t know what they’re talking about.
Moreover, many men have undergone restoration (just the skin, can’t restore the 20,000 lost nerve endings) and I haven’t looked into it thoroughly but they report a more positive experience with foreskin.
These men, and women who have been with both, are the only ones with any authority worth listening to on the matter.
After all is said and done, what really matters is the science, and the science says that nearly all men who get cut later in life regret it. Moreover, women who have been with both report 1) they achieve vaginal intercourse orgasm twice as often (60% vs. 30%) with uncut, 2) get wetter, 3) experience less discomfort, 4) have more multiple orgasms, 5) have multiple orgasms in more encounters, and 6) have intercourse that lasts 50% longer.
Whether evolution or “God’s” creation, seems there’s damn good reason to be intact.
And so now we kick it off with exclusive Patron content. As I mentioned in the intro, my general approach is that all video recipes are exclusive to Patrons forever. When I have only photos (and I have a backlog of hundreds of recipes with photos only), those will be early access for Patrons for two weeks, then become public.
Exclusive content for Patrons will be more than 50% of all content published.
When you see “Famous Clam Chowder” touted by an establishment, do you often find that it’s clam flavored potato soup, wallpaper paste, or both?
This has been too often my experience and so I’m showing you how to make it “just right,” Goldilocks.
This is a rather low-fat version of New England Clam Chowder.
4 bottles of clam juice (I use Bar Harbor)
4 cans of chopped clams (I use Bumble Bee)
4 slices of bacon (1 per can)
1 cup of diced yellow onion
1 cup of diced celery
1 cup of cubed potatoes
4 cups of 1% milk
2 rounded tablespoons of dried parsley
1/2 teaspoon of dried bay leaves
2-3 heaping teaspoons of potato starch depending upon desired thickness (alternatively, corn starch)
Salt and pepper to taste
First a little “theory.” There are three principle things:
Click the link for the rest, the preparation and video.
I’m a long time blogger at FreeTheAnimal.com, since 2003 and over 4,600 posts ago. A great number of those posts have centered around whole food where I post recipes, food photos, and sometimes videos.
These posts are often very popular amongst my blog readership and so I have decided to formalize it. Initially, I have quite a backlog of recipes, photos, and videos to put up over time and in addition, I will be doing 1-2 videos on average per week going forward.
While I do a good amount of grilling, traditional stovetop, and oven, I also make substantial use of both the InstantPot pressure cooker, as well as an AirFryer.
What sort of food do I cook and is there any dietary stuff I adhere to? I cook primarily whole foods. I don’t mind using canned, packaged, or processed items when they make more sense, but typically, some form of meat, fish, fowl, or vegetable is going to be “the star of the dish.” In terms of dietary “ideals,” I don’t care much (about macronutrients: protein, fat, carbohydrate) except for two things. When the star of the dish is protein, then I emphasize or target protein and I deemphasize fat and eschew lots of added fat. Otherwise, I’m fine preparing a vegan dish, a carnivore dish, and everything in-between.
Initially, my plan is to make all my cooking videos exclusive to Patrons forever. For the dishes where I have only photographs, my plan is to give Patrons about 2 weeks of Early Access, then the post automatically goes public. More than 50% of all published content will be videos.
Chapter 1 was posted on my 57th birthday, January 29.
That was three weeks into the separation from my wife Beatrice, whom I’d been together with since about 1996, married since 2001, so 22 years and 17 years, respectively. I’d suspected for a while that her retirement last June from the day job would make or break us. It did the later. It’s very different, living with someone 24/7/365 than it is just every evening, weekend, and vacation. It’s nobody’s fault. When you have all the time in your life, you go to your primary and principle values. It turns out that ours diverge too much to be in each other’s faces, all the time.
After just over five months of solitude on my part, living alone in a pretty big space, I headed down to SoCal a week ago, and spent the most part of that week at Bea’s new place she’s crafted for herself, and decorated throughout with the many classic, artful things I collected during my five years all over Asia in the late 80’s, that she loves, and that I love even more that she appreciates them so much. I’m so happy for her to have them now. They don’t work so well in a pinewood cabin anyway.
The purpose of the visit was both to reconnect a bit, and to meet with a divorce mediator. This is someone who, rather than seeking to fuel flames of discontent in exchange for attorney fees on both sides, tells you both you’re full of shit while you’re sitting there. We met with Belinda—former divorce attorney—last Tuesday and to give you an idea, I came out of the 2-hr initial mediation feeling like crap, that she had totally taken Bea’s side against me. I was sanguine about it, though. I told Bea as we were driving away that Belinda’s $5,000 flat fee just saved us $10,000 in attorney fees, each.
But, Bea wasn’t happy either and as women seem to do, she got anxious and perturbed later that evening. Apparently, she thought the session went opposite from my impression. I’m just going to suppose that’s good.
I’m not going to say where she got it from, but Beatrice has an excellent flair for the decorous, now. On the other hand, I grew up with an artist grandfather and at least one of his brothers had an interior decorating studio…
Live above the fray. Decorate well.
What I really learned over the last week with that view is that Beatrice is so happy and content with what she has done for herself, but that just as equally, it’s not me. We’d be at each other’s throats within a couple of weeks. It’s not at all about how cool she picked a place to live or how she decorated it, but the context of life. I’m ready to move and move often, with only what I need. She’s five minutes away from the family she loves. How could I begrudge that? How can I not applaud? She worked for 35 years for a bargain where she gets enough money monthly to do what the fuck she wants every single day she wakes up for the rest of her life, no worries. Not a bad bargain and It’s indescribable, not the least of which is because for half of those 35 years, I saw her getting up at 5am day in, day out, enthusiastic to go at it another day with the school kids she owned. She was no shit-ass, union-entitled teacher, either. She loved it and lived it. She owned it.
I make it a point to apprehend ways the female is essential, respectable, and worthy of exaltation. Exaltation, for my personal perspective, took growing up with a great grandmother who raised a boy and girl (my grandmother) as a single mom during the Great Depression. I can’t imagine a Western male not having their own reasons why women are so great and so essential—even on Father’s Day.
I have never been much enamored of the “men’s” movement. Call it Red Pill, call it whatever. To me, there were always two nagging things:
Males seeking to win at victim Olympics.
Males seeking females to be their voices.
A few months back I came across a woman who, in 5 words, reconciled my problems with the male movement and after thinking about it, gave me a clear path forward in all of it.
Men need to wake up.
It actually seems very obvious, once you think about it and I did think about it lots and lots. If you do, then you immediately dismiss these nefarious notions of males as victims or of female spokeswomen for poor males.
…Back when I published Part 1 of What In The Hell Is Up, I got tons of feedback, much of which is public on the comments to that post and the Facebook share comments. What nobody knows is that I got several dozen feedback emails and comments to the blog that were held in moderation because the commenters had no previously approved comments.
These where highly berating, mocking, gloating, etc. I have a simple rule about putting through first time commenters on the blog, and from where, going forward, they are whitelisted and comments publish automatically: It has to be value-add the first time.
It’s so simple. And yet, trolls, gloaters, and mockers can’t manage that. They can’t help themselves.
There’s an interesting fact about all of it: 100% male; or, at least, anon using a male pseudo. 100%, zero exception. No females. I got nothing…NOTHING but hugs, from females. Does this not go to my interlocutor’s pith, above? Think about it.
…Feminism is an easy target but it’s the wrong target. The right target is solidly, 100%, pussy boy males with pink panties in a bunch.
Feminism simply fills the void left by all the hundreds of millions of males who have decided they want to be girls now; but of course, aren’t man enough to chop off their cocks and “man” up.
We live in interesting times. Females vying for masculinity, males vying for femininity. Of course, it will correct and when it does, it will be bloody and indiscriminate. I just hope that when it does get indiscriminate and bloody, that the pussy boys are the very first to go. Thats a level of indiscriminate I can not only live with, but embrace. Females have essential utility and no, I’m not talking about rape. Females have a keen sense about where their bread is buttered, that’s all.
It’s in our nature to seek paths of least resistance. It’s not a particularly bad thing. Conserve energy, obtain more for less, and reduce the often greater risks associated with high energy and effort.
It’s not necessarily lazy and can sometimes be smart.
In the realm of diets, however, this human tendency often goes off the rails into magical territory. It’s nothing new, really. The diet industry is huge and to compete within it—whether it be through books, training courses, packaged and processed foods, or whatever—you’re going to need some hook or sizzle that I call magic, in order to compete for the dollars on offer.
The magic typically entails some sort of easy counting…like packaged foods all broken down into point values; or, counting only carbohydrate grams. The latter is the classic Atkins, of course; and admittedly, there is a bit of “magic” underfoot, since it turns out that if you severely restrict carbohydrate, most people tend to replace it with forms of protein. Since protein is the most satiating of the three macronutrients, there is a spontaneous caloric reduction for many, and they enjoy a double whammy effect: they lose a lot of water weight from glycogen depletion initially, and then sustained weight loss from eating fewer calories than energy demands.
Here’s how I explained the stall phenomenon, long quote.
So let’s run some example numbers for shits, giggles…and in hopes of a Second Coming (I didn’t specify what kind).
…Let’s suppose a 250 pound male body, 5′ 10″, 50yo, light to moderate get-off-his-ass level. Daily burn is about 3,500 calories.
He goes Low carb. His target is 160 pounds, 90 pounds away…because that’s the last time he remembers where a hot chick approached him and, well….she did nasty things to him. He’s been told he doesn’t need to count calories or anything—that they don’t matter, eat to satiety—under a certain set of proscriptions having to do with carbohydrate per se.
And it’s exactly what he does. After the initial water weight loss and adjustment period, he settles in. Since he doesn’t count calories, let me do so, hypothetically. …Wow, amazing, and this does go to the asset side of the Balance Sheet. He’s not doing anything like 3,500 calories per day. Not even close. Eating ad libitum, he’s naturally consuming about 2,800 calories for a 700 calorie deficit per day, or about a pound lost per 5 days. He feels awesome, great…because even though in big caloric deficit, he’s still on a very high fat diet and he’s not really hungry too often. He’s euphoric. The pounds are melting off. He’s an LC believer for life. It borders on Enlightenment. It’s tantamount to a religious experience or, a Second Coming.
This goes on for just short of a year, about 350 days if my math is correct. He’s livin’ it up, low-carb style. He’s doing himself, friends, and family a huge favor. Don’t discount that. But in the end, he’s accountable mostly to himself, and in that end, he stalls. He stalls, not at his 160 pound goal where hot chicks might once again do nasty things to him, but at 180 pounds, 20 pounds away. He’s gonna have to do something, or settle for 2nd string in the chick department. How can this be? Low carb is magic.He’s proved it. Over the space of an entire year!
…Or so he thinks.
What he only proved, however, is that calories count. Yea, he may have gorged on the fatty meat one night to the tune of pounds and huge calories and couldn’t wait to tell you. But like my dear late grandmother—while I was growing up in Reno—only ever told us about her jackpots at the slots, and never the amount she fed it regularly…what he didn’t tell you is that the next day, he didn’t eat much at all. He was satiated. It all subtracts down, over time.
As it tuns out, 2,800 average daily calories is about the requirement for a 50 year old guy, 180 pounds, 5′ 10″, who gets off his ass now and then. …Unfortunately, fantasizing about the hot chicks in waiting doesn’t burn a whole lot.
Are you beginning to see where I’m going? Low carb was indeed effective. But it was only a means to the end that really worked. Actually, two means: his food palatability/reward was diminished, he spontaneously lowered caloric intake to an ad libitum level of a 180 pound man (2,800 calories), and he lost the weight. A year later, right on schedule, he weighs 180. After months and months or years and years, he begins to become disillusioned about low carb. But the blindspot, because “calories don’t count on low carb,” is that he never tried 2,600 calories daily on average, the requirement for a 160lb man with his parameters. But, had he done that, he’d have been hungry and low carb is a lot about not having to feel hungry. It’s baked into the low carb—and hopefully gluten free—cake. So low carb failed him?
Now let’s get into new information. The advent of both activity trackers like Fitbit and food logging aps like LoseIt! and MyFitnessPal (that can also integrate your tacker activity, your workouts, and even your WiFi scale) are making it not only easy, but a bit of fun to track stuff. They can even scan food bar codes, so errors are being reduced. AI may bring the ability to snap a picture of food and get a reasonable estimate of the total breakdown.
The Keto Diet as it’s being popularly touted is doomed to failure on two primary counts.
Because it’s a high fat, limited protein, and very low carbohydrate diet, it has a serious handicap in that the highest macronutrient is more than twice as energy dense as the other two, combined with the fact that’s its the least satiating, gram for gram. So you get that? If you separately eat 100 grams of protein, whole food carbohydrate, and then fat, generally speaking you’re going to feel the most full and lasting with the protein, then the carbohydrate, then the fat. Thing is, the protein and carbs cost you 400 calories, but the fat costs you 900. So, you’re more hungry with the latter, and you have already eaten more than double the energy as with the former. Can you say stupid?
It has to, and does, discourage all of the new technology that allows individuals to science their own deal and get measurable results that correlate very well with their tracking efforts. Why? Because they’ll easily be able to figure out why they’re stalled or regaining, Occam’s Razor like.
And that kills the magic and we’ve come full circle.
What if we could access and analyze all of this self reported data and see who’s doing best? Turns out you can. Turns out engineer Marty Kendall is doing just that. He has a blog, and two Facebook lives, here and here.
What he did is take about a half million days of diet data from users of MyFitnessPal, categorized them by the macronutrient breakdown they were reporting, and then see how they do in terms of success in meeting their targets for consistently coming in at goal and meeting weight loss goals.
Amazing. Per the data covering a half million days, the Keto dieters are just doing the absolute abysmally the worst. It is a disaster.
Clearly, targeting protein is the path of least resistance, almost magical. Even high carb or low protein show decent results. As soon as you start limiting protein, and there are a number of ways—a junk food diet is just like a low protein diet is just like a high fat diet—shit begins to hit the fan.
What this chart actually means is that IF you get about >10% of your whole daily calories from protein composition early in the day, you’re going to tend to eat less over the whole day, naturally. So, it’s not so much the old adage that breakfast is the most important meal but, that you make it rich in protein.
Marty is using exactly the same data, just a different way of query. The bottom line is, the more protein you eat at breakfast, up to about 11% of total calories on the day, the proverbial path of least resistance, you’ll be coming in at a good caloric deficit for the day if you’re aiming to lose weight.
The shake is made from 1 cup of the 1% milk, and I just drink the other cup. Please, not one single comment about raw eggs in a shake or smoothie. I’ve been eating raw eggs for over 50 years and have never had a single problem ever. Shut. The. Fuck. Up. I seem to always get comments from tender flowers and special snowflakes every time I mention this. I don’t care about your outlier problems and won’t entertain them.
My daily average caloric target at a loss of 1.5 pounds per week is 1,750. Eleven percent of that is 192.5 calories, which is about 48g protein. So, very damn close.
Go and do likewise. Like this, grilled flank steak last night.
Elixa Probiotic is a British biotech manufacturer in Oxford, UK. U.S. Demand is now so high they’ve established distribution centers in Illinois, Nevada, and New Jersey.
Still, sell-outs happen regularly, so order nowto avoid a waiting list.
Chosen because I had a bear visitor on my deck this morning, an adolescent, maybe 150#. I opened the door and said “hi!”
Spring has sprung after a cold, dark, and snowy winter and I decided to tighten things up a bit in terms of overall lifestyle. The principle meta rules are these, which I began about a week ago in earnest:
Preparing and eating at home
Logging food and counting calories
Moving and exercising
Work my regular income stream gigs harder and longer plus launch an additional project or two
Limit time on Social Media, plus make the time I’m there be at least half serious stuff that builds my income streams
Do simple, forward-driving To-Do lists and work them most days
At first I had a huge long list of “Meta Rules” of what I would do daily, but it got in the way of itself after a couple of days. It was a good exercise and I’m flexibly, not rigidly, mindful of lots of the stuff, like keeping the house tidy and cleaning the kitchen after food preparation, etc. The above list really distills things down to the most important essentials and it’s working for me.
So for diet, it’s very simple and flexible. In general:
Log and track everything.
Maintain an average daily caloric deficit ≥ 1.5# loss per week.
I just love everything about it. Since I got the first unit on January 20, other than a few fried eggs or omelets here and there, boiling potatoes, or heating up some frozen vegetables, every single meal has been doing in an Air Fryer. Oh, yea, I did corned beef and cabbage in the Instant Pot.
Perhaps the best thing about it, other than food is really great, is that preparation and cleanup are so effortless. There’s just not ever much mess. Below the exercise section I’ll have some pics and brief recipe procedures for stuff I’ve made lately.
This won’t take long. the basics, same theme of keeping it simple.
Battle Rope. Just the basics. A few rounds, limited rest between.
Kettle Bell swings. I’ve got a 15, 25, and 45#. But check out what Keith Norris did, a Ghettobell. You can make whatever weight you want for cheap. I’ll be fabricating one soon.
Jumprope. Standard stuff, nothing fancy.
Body weight stuff. Pushups, dips, lunges, squats, and I’ll be fabricating a pull up bar soon, as well.
I’ve contemplated going back to the gym, but if I do so, it’ll be after having re-built a good foundation with this.
Three sessions per week.
Injuries suck and I’ve had my share, even one requiring surgery (lumbar herniation), so prudence is key here. Stay in the game.
OTHER LIFESTYLE CHANGES
Just a few things to mention.
Always have some home maintenance or improvement project in the works to hit in the afternoons during the weekday, or a good dive in on weekends. In the immediate, I have a lot of burning of fallen twigs, branches, and needles to do in order to maintain the required 30′ defensible space around the house up here at 4,200 feet elevation in the forrest. Another one is to build a retaining wall along the driveway for erosion control.
I’ve been taking face selfies every few days to document the change in appearance from cutting out booze, eating very well, and fat loss from caloric deficit. Already I see a pretty profound difference.
This will shock some of you, but those who’ve been around 10 years know that I kinda got famous for the no-soap, no-shampoo deal. Well, still no soap on the bod, water is always enough, but with the long hair, it’s just pretty unmanageable, so I’ve been experimenting with Mother Dirt Sulfate Free Shampoo as well as Baebody Moroccan Argan Oil Shampoo for a wash every few days and like it. So I’ll stick with it.
AIR FRYER FOOD PICS AND RECIPES
Ok, here’s the fun and eye candy. Here’s some previous posts:
Get 10-12 thawed wings (for the 3.4 quart air fryer), patted dry, tossed in about equal proportions of salt, pepper, paprika, and cayenne (the cayenne is super important—and it only renders a mild spicyness). Of course, you can play with whatever seasonings you like (like onion and/or garlic powder), and you can toss also toss them in a spicy or savory sauce after cooking— and you ought not need much of any sugar or fat. I’ve tossed them in just a few shakes of a standard bottled hot sauce. Take your pick.
Go ahead and pre-heat your air fryer for a few minutes. Then, simply add your seasoned wings at 400F for 11 minutes. Turn them over, then air fry another 11 minutes. Here’s what I do, instead of a sauce, typically: I toss them in dry, grated parmesan as soon as they come out.
Fries or Potato Wedges
You cook them up basically the same.
To make good air fryer fries it’s simple, but preparation ahead of time is best for simplicity and rapidity. First, par boil a bunch of russets. I do five pounds at a time. You can do peeled or with skins. I typically do them peeled.
Cover the whole potatoes in cold water in a boiling pot.
Place on the stove, on high.
Once they come to a boil, remove them from the heat immediately.
Let them sit for exactly 5 minutes in the hot water.
Drain the hot water immediately and cover with cold water to stop further cooking.
Once cool, place them whole in the refrigerator overnight (this forms resistant starch).
The next day, cut them into fries. I think something between thin and steak fries is the best size.
Toss them in a big preparation bowl with plenty of salt (I like a little pepper too) and a small amount of oil, like I use no more than a TBS or two for the whole 5 pounds and much of it coats the bowl. I prefer using Sisson’s Primal Kitchen Avocado Oil over EVOO which surprised me. The taste and texture is better.
Now, pack them flat in a couple of large Ziplock freezer bags (so they don’t freeze all clumped together).
Now, within a few hours, you have low-fat, high resistant-starch fries on demand. Always preheat the air fryer, but you can do the fries right out of the freezer or let your portion thaw for an hour or so. Do them at 400F. If out of the freezer, I do them for 18 minutes. If thawed, 15 minutes. In either case, toss them halfway through cooking.
There’s another way too, that you can use with fully cooked whole boiled or baked potatoes from the fridge. Slice them up, season and lightly coat with oil and cook at 400 for only 8-10 minutes, since they are fully cooked.
Snapper or Any Flaky White Fish
4 oz Snapper
1/4 cup plain bread crumbs
1-2 tsp oil (avocado or EVOO)
1 egg, beaten
Pre heat air fryer and while it’s doing that, prep the bread crumbs with a drizzle of oil and make a sort of paste or mash. Dredge the fish in the beaten egg wash and then into the mash. Its sticks nicely. Work it around for a thin, even coating.
Place it in the air fryer basket and cook for 11 min @360. The breading stuck perfectly and it was nice and crunchy.
Along with is 11 1/2 ounces of gold potatoes (with 2 teaspoons of butter, not a Jimmy Moore 8 ounces). The whole dinner is only 468 kcal.
New York Steak
Well this is the most brainless. There is no easier way to cook a steak. Season it, preferably 40 minutes before cooking. Always preheat the unit. Then 10 minutes at 400. It comes out great, but you can kick it up a notch by getting a hot skillet with 1 pat of butter smoking hot, sear only 30 seconds on each side, then let rest 3-5 minutes. Perfect.
And yep, that’s a baked potato with 2 teaspoons of butter, not 8 ounces in the name of “satiety.”
Yes, potatoes have balls. People who eat lots of potatoes have balls.
This consists of 12.5 oz of russet potatoes made into mash with only 1 TBS of butter and 1/3 1% milk (136 calories, total), seasoned with plenty of salt and pepper. I made them last night, so in the fridge all night to form retrograded Resistant Starch which significantly lowers BG/insulin response (reheating them does even more).
Preheat the air fryer. Make your leftover mash into slightly smaller than golf-ball size, place them in the basket, and cook at 400 for 11 minutes. They were just fantastic. next time, I’ll form them into tater tots.
Boneless and Skinless Chicken Thighs
There’s a bunch of ways you could do these. Some ideas:
Just plain with seasoning
From a marinade of your choosing
Some form of Teriyaki or other Asian sauce
Some form of sweet or spicy BBQ sauce
In my case, I did a basic “kitchen sink” marinade. Some EVOO, Dijon, soy sauce, Worcestershire, some poultry seasoning, and red wine vinegar. I let it sit in a Ziplock on the counter for 2 hours (overnight in the fridge is better, but i had just come up with the idea). Pre heat the unit and then they go in at 400 for 8 minutes. When it stops, this is the time you coat with any sauce you’re going to do. In my case, I added a couple of TBS of sugar to the marinade, then dropped them back in the bag for a re-coating. Then, they go back in the unit for another 4 minutes. And you’re done.
Very fantastic. Very juicy. And, just so many variations you can do.
—Why the gut is responsible for allergies, acne, depression, and more…
Why is gut health important? What is autoimmune disease? What causes inflammation? How do you boost your immune system..?
…Imagine a top student from a highly intelligent alien race was taking an exam on interplanetary biology.
A question comes up asking the alien to take a quick look at the anatomy of this strange looking species from the planet ‘Earth’ who call themselves ‘humans’. The alien was then told that these ‘humans’ experience many different health problems… but the question did not reveal any specific problems.
The question only revealed the complete anatomy of an ordinary ‘human’.
The question then states: ‘Without having access to any human medical literature or learning about human pharmaceuticals or knowing the specific details of their various health problems, state the part of their body which is most likely to cause the majority of their health problems.’
Being a top student, the alien consults the anatomical data of the ordinary ‘human’ and answers: “The part they call their ‘gut’”, and then moves onto the next question.
Why is this? Why, without knowing the specific mechanisms behind each health condition, does it make COMPLETE sense that the gut would be the likely source? And how can it be possible for the gut to determine the health of the body OUTSIDE of the gut? And why is the gut any more likely to be the source than OTHER parts of the body?
How about some product reviews?
“I had persistent oral thrush and acid reflux from the antibiotics that wouldn’t go away ,3 days on your product it was gone I will start the 2nd course after my Sygmoidoscy.”
“Thank you for bringing this wonderful product to market.
“I am 67 Yo and have suffered with autoimmune disease manifesting in Depression, Lupus and Parkinson’s Disease (at least) for many years.
“I have studied and worked very hard at regaining good health.
“A few years ago I changed to a Paleo diet and started taking (relatively) high dose probiotics. Some benefits ensued however I was not able to clear the (lupus) rash from my face.
“(I have a rash that comes and goes according to how well my digestive system is working on any given day. I get a health report every morning when I look in the mirror to shave…and then know what to expect for the day.) And I could never really say I had good health back.
“I purchased four rounds of Elixa (two for myself and two for my partner) and completed taking those ten days ago. These past few days I have been amazed at how the skin on my face and hands appears a lot more healthy and the rash on my face is abating – in fact the rash is almost completely gone…each morning the health report now looks very encouraging.”
Why females select the males they select and open their gates is an interesting study or contemplation.
This is not a formal Propertarian post. The distinction being that, in formal posts, I’m dutifully taking up my responsibility to select Propertarian curriculum in relevant and contextual chunks and translate it to wider audiences. But, because Propertarianism is science applied to philosophy, there are many tangential areas where it’s not solely about our property and how we all fight to defend and keep it.
I’m riffing off of a video, you can see it here. It’s about 30 minutes. The first half is what I’m going “meh” on, here, but the second half is pretty brilliant.
…It’s noted that our nearest primate ancestors, chimps, have female sexual selection where the alpha male accounts for nearly half of the offspring in the tribe, the other half being spread amongst his executive officer and various lieutenants—and almost half of other males bear no offspring at all.
I constantly see this notion peddled about as though it has any important application to humans and that we can learn or know anything from it. We already know that being a very accomplished male who stands above other males can command the best pussy. That’s a priori. The problem arises when that observation is stretched to somehow claim or suggest that the lowest ranking human males in terms of looks (let’s say: short, fat, bald, and ugly) can just never get laid outside prostitution, never have a family, or produce any offspring. It’s empirically false.
It’s falsified. Essentially, the old adage holds true: there is someone for everyone. Why else would we have hoards of average low IQ and poor “refugees” flooding the West from all directions?
Moreover, if it were the case that short, fat, bald, ugly and poor dudes can’t reproduce, then why have they not been weeded out of the gene pool? If the top human specimens select so eugenically and wisely, then why does anything but pristine persist? Look at birds. Ever seen an ugly bird? they’re all fucking beautiful because that’s probably where hyper eugenics works the best and is the easiest and most obvious to observe. They can fly. Eugenics rules.
Humans are in a completely different highly evolved game. It’s beyond the scope of this post to get into the genetic details, but chimps pretty much look like chimps. They all pretty much look the same, only slight differences. Humans have off-the-scale vast differences by comparison. What is it that makes the female chimps of a tribe mostly select a single male when physical differences are so slight?
So we end up with this notion of human alpha male that’s supposed to somehow reflect the chimp in the jungle and I just think it’s laughably nonsensical and utterly falsified empirically. For one, we also know already that the Adonis element is only part of the picture for human females. There’s also the Wallet element. It’s derisively thought of as gold diggers but it’s far more nuanced and normal. It’s just general hypergamy, where females naturally want to and feel as though they are marrying up.
There are many other elements. I’ll do a stream of consciousness.
Unlikely couple, she’s way more sexually marketable than he. High School sweethearts.
Same. Neighborhood loves since they can remember.
Same. Families always went to the same restaurant or church.
Uniforms. Have you never seen how many lower-status males in terms of looks and wallet size command high market value females because they wear the uniform of a cop, fireman, or military fighter, signifying discipline and a commitment to serve and protect? “I love a man in uniform” is a saying said often.
I really could go on and on unpacking how human females have a bunch of selection criteria for who is going to bear her children, raise, love and protect them. I’m going to quote Curt Doolittle here, a bit of style editing.
“…all women are different…”
A distinction without a difference. It is almost as impossible to have a scientific conversation with women about philosophy, economics, politics, and war as it is for a man to have a conversation about relationships, carrying a baby, nursing and how ‘beautiful and special’ her lower 80% munchkin is.
Seriously. Even the fact that one would say such a thing is evidence—because that statement is an instance of NAXALT (Not all X are like that). It means you’re empirically blind: that there is no normal distribution and in particular that the vast majority are indifferent.
I expect a woman to love me, care for me, and try to make me better and happier than I am. And women are in general, if you are worth having as a mate, pretty good at it—and often even if you aren’t worth having as a mate.
The best relationship for a man to have with a woman is where you listen to her, fulfill her wants and needs, try to help her be all she can be, listen to her insights into people she has spoken to, cherish each other and the time together, but never take her opinions beyond those wants, needs, relationships, and your relationship more seriously than you do the impulsive fascinations of your golden retriever has with disgusting smells.
Just as all but a minority of men are empathically blind, all but a minority of women are morally blind. They have to be. Or they would never bear and raise children—80% of which are of necessity in the bottom 80%. Female puberty produces marginal insanity for good reason. You’d have to be insane to care for babies, toddlers, and dependent children. Female marginal insanity is an evolutionary adaptation necessary for our survival.
The fact that this was common knowledge in all cultures until the Victorians tried to corral the newly liberated lower classes, advertisers found women spent 70% of world income, and feminists tried to take power from white men, is merely a blip in the stream of history.
I love women but I know I am blind to the things women are not, just as I know women are blind deaf and dumb to anything they cannot feel.
And I hate that I even have to write about such things, because it’s the lies that these things are not both true and obvious that cause the difficulties in our relationships.
(A simple experiment: Watch the View for a week and observe how women can make excuses to justify anything that will bring about consensus no matter how false, impossible, or outright stupid. It doesn’t matter the topic. Just watch the absurd excuses they will make to generate consensus on a status quo. )
…One of the best and loveliest experiences with a woman you adore is to develop the ability to make her laugh (since, by her irrational behavior, she makes you laugh all the time). It’s possibly the most transcendent of all, in terms of the selection “mismatches” I’ve been talking about. You’ve all heard it, when curious about why she is with him, and she says, “he makes me laugh.”
It’s my favorite. I suspect it’s the most powerful in terms of a human male’s ability to snag way above what his body composition would otherwise deal him and in circumstances, can even trump Adonis and Wallet. What female doesn’t want a live-in comedian who has actually learned what she finds funny?
I know guys who can make chicks laugh. Even strangers, and like a group of them and naturally, they start competing for his attention.
I’m not so good at it unless I know them and have an intimate relationship. Now and then….precise amount of alcohol, perfect mix of chicks, I’ve have had my moments. Making women laugh is just a joy.
But you have to learn how to make your woman laugh. Making your love laugh is an opportunity to reset their “silly brains.” They have silly brains because they have to, as Curt said, above. You have to be a bit insane to take on what they take on as mothers—raisers and guardians of boys, girls, men, and women.
I learned early on how to make my wife laugh. There are lots of ways, but I’ll tell you my two go-to ways.
The first, ironically, is to pretend I’m very funny. I’ll come up with some stupid joke I know she won’t think is funny, but I act serious about how funny it is and how funny I am in telling it, and that’s what’s funny to her. Get’s her every time. “Oh, you think you’re funny?”
The second is easier and more fun. She’s Hispanic and loves salsa music and I have a large library including Cuban (thanks for the steer, Michael Savage). So, I do this white guy, Steve Martin and Ellen-esque (Seinfeld) dance schtick and have crafted over years how to make it look as though I’m totally serious and grooving to the music.
It cracks her the fuck up. She’s so used to it I’ll do it on dance floors at parties and such.
No matter how you hooked up or what the relative sexual market value was, the best strategy for a long lasting relationship is to quickly find out what makes your mate and love laugh, and make them laugh often. It may just be the most profound sexual choice criteria that tumps chimps and all else.