Please welcome Hadassah Rosenthal for today’s guest post. Hadassah’s moving story has a lesson for all parents.

Yesterday was my 5-year-old daughter’s first day at the pool.

I’ve heard way too many stories about kids on the Autistic Spectrum who wandered into water and ended up drowning. So, my husband and I decided it was time for Devorah to learn to swim. But teaching a 5-year-old on the Autistic Spectrum is much different than teaching a 5-year-old who is typically developing. Instead of a group class, she gets private lessons. Instead of a seasoned swimmer who’s good with kids, she gets a trained hydrotherapist. And getting ready for swimming requires about a week of preparation. Unavoidably, something is going to be forgotten. Ima’s motto: be vigilant.

After one lesson, I found out what that something was.

And this letter is a thank you to the woman — unknown and anonymous — who stepped in and filled in the forgotten, but oh-so-necessary gap.

The lesson  itself was perfect. Devorah had a blast blowing bubbles into the water and floating on Styrofoam noodles. Her teacher fell in love with Devorah’s excitement and enthusiasm at actually entering the water. In all respects, the lesson was a success.

When the lesson was over, Devorah didn’t want to stop.You see, Devorah doesn’t really get (like most 5 year olds) that there are other people besides her. She didn’t understand that other children were waiting for their lesson. In fact, after we (the instructor and I) persuaded her to move into another area of the pool, she forcefully decided to join the next lesson, but wanted to be the only child.

After a lot of cajoling, I had to pick her up and forcefully remove her from the pool area while she was kicking and screaming. In the locker room, she convinced me that she just wanted to go back in the water and would go to another part of the pool. And so, I let her — who wants to be the cause of their child’s pain? Mistake. She made a beeline for the instructor and her swimming group. And so, I had to pick her up again. Kicking and screaming, we made our way into the locker room. I tried to wrap her up in a towel and soothe her with pressure. No can do.

And then, SHE showed up.

A bunch of ladies were in the locker room. Trying hard not to look at us. They sat and pretended that they didn’t hear the screaming, probably thankful that it wasn’t their child. And then SHE came. A rather large woman (at least 55) stood in front of us and asked what was going on (in Hebrew). Israel is an amazing country. Honestly, I love it. There’s a sense that all children must be looked after, like we’re one big family. But sometimes, it’s annoying and I hate it. This was (I thought) one of those times. I screamed at her that my child had special needs and that I was trying to calm her. She asked me how she could help. I told her that the best way she could help would be to leave us alone. And she did, but she kept watching us and Devorah kept screaming and flailing her body. Finally, she said (in perfect English) that she was a teacher in special education, and if she just knew what was going on, she could help. And so, almost in tears, I told her that my daughter had a form of autism. And very calmly, she soothed my daughter and found out that Devorah, simply, wasn’t done swimming. And so, this anonymous woman whom I had never met led my daughter out to the pool and proceeded to give her a private swimming lesson. Before the woman left the locker room (holding Devorah’s hand), she ordered me to drink a glass of water. As she and Devorah walked out of the locker room, I ran to a dark corner and cried. When I got my composure back, I drank some water and, eventually, left for the pool to retrieve my daughter.

It was another 30 minutes (along with a promise of a popsicle) before we were able to leave the pool. But, we did it. It was a 45 minute lesson that took 2.5 hours.

Today, I’m buying a bathing suit. Next week, I won’t ask an anonymous stranger to help me get my daughter out of the pool. Next week, I’ll be swimming with my daughter and be able to support her in getting out of the water. That’s next week. Today, I am oh-so-grateful to that anonymous woman who helped fill in the gap that I didn’t know existed.

About the author:  Hadassah Rosenthal is a fulltime ima, living in Tsfat with her husband and three children. She can be contacted via email at mehudar6@gmail.com.

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How to relate to the prayer group, “Women of the Wall,”  has been one of the most divisive issues in the National Religious community in Israel.

I wrote up my thoughts and published them on Times of Israel, and it is one of the top posts there.

Today is Rosh Hodesh Tammuz. The Kotel is quiet. Wishing you all a good month.

Please read: My Lesson in Tolerance

image: Rahel Jaskow

Picture by Lara Doel

Today we have three readers seeking help with baby names:

1. Is Yaeli a common first name in Israel or just the nickname for Yael? We like Yaeli more, but here in Germany we have to prove that it’s a “real” name at least in another country. BTW, you already helped us last year to decide for a girls name. Finally we didn’t choose Avigajil / Abigail because of it’s bad connotation in German. Now we’ve got the sweetest Noa (almost one year already).
   While Noa might be a kind-of-boring-choice in Israel, in Germany there are only boys named Noah. But we – -mostly – get nice comments. And now in October Noa will get a sister – or brother? Thank you for any help!
   I also enjoy the rest of your blog. Very interesting female point of view on Israeli culture.
2. I’m a long-time reader with a baby name question I am hoping you or your readers can help with. We are expecting our third child (a boy) around Rosh Chodesh Elul. We have gone with modern Hebrew first names for our other children (a boy and a girl) but are having a hard time coming up with names this time around. We plan on giving the baby a middle name after my grandfather Chananya. My husband and I both have Israeli parents but grew up and still live in the US, we are modern orthodox and would like the name to work well in both countries.
3. We have a little girl named Dalia and I am pregnant again.
   I really like the name Mika for a girl and I think it would go well with Dalia. However, I live in the US and all my family is in Israel. After Dalia was born my cousin said she was surprised I gave her such an old fashioned name (here in the US she has three friends named Dalia!)
   How common/modern or accepted is Mika in Israel? We live in the DC area.

For more ideas, see links to baby name posts and comments: Israeli Baby Names.

This story has a happy ending, mostly. It almost didn’t.

I grew up in a religious household, and I knew what the expectations were, yet when I was eighteen, I became sexually active. When I was twenty, a condom tore. Ten days later, I saw two lines on a pregnancy test. My first thought was that my parents would never accept me. Not that they wouldn’t accept what I’d done, but that they wouldn’t accept me.

The idea of abortion was brought up, but I knew I wouldn’t be able to live with myself if I did it. It wasn’t a possibility as far as I was concerned.

I thought maybe my boyfriend and I could get married soon enough that no one would know until it was too late for them to disown me. I could have a seven month baby, and maybe people would giggle, but it would be ok in the end. And then he dropped the bomb. He didn’t want to get married. Not now. Not to become a father.

I was backed into a corner. I thought – I really thought this – that my life was over. My parents would stop loving me, stop accepting me, and I would be on my own in the world with a baby and no friends. I didn’t want to live like that.

That’s why I took sleeping pills –a lot of sleeping pills, around forty of them. And then I got scared. I called my boyfriend, and he called an ambulance, and I spent the night in the emergency room. I puked my guts up, got medicine, got put in a ward. My boyfriend called my sister. My sister called my parents, who were out of the country at the time.

Do you know what they said? They said they’d support me no matter what I decided. They said they thought I probably shouldn’t have an abortion. I woke up in the hospital to my sister patting my head and all of my fears gone.

A few days later, I miscarried. It was what they call a chemical pregnancy. We never saw so much as a sac on the ultrasound. I bled. I cried. I left the hospital.

The boyfriend and I broke up. Time went on. It’s been nearly fifteen years since then. I’m married. I have a husband who I love deeply. I have children who were planned and wanted. I have a good relationship with my parents.

A few days ago, I was talking to my mother. She told me she was genuinely sad when I miscarried, even though she realized it was ultimately for the best.  She was really sad to realize that I really thought she could stop loving me because I made a mistake, even a big, scandalous mistake like getting pregnant.

I hope I’ll manage to tell my children that I really will love them no matter what. That misunderstanding almost cost everything.

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She grew up in the Gur community of Ashdod, but her mother was from a Chabad family.  When she came of marriageable age she told her parents not to match her with someone from the Ger community. (The marriage restrictions in Ger deter many women from marriage within the community, creating a shortage of women.)

Riki ended up in an unhappy marriage with a Chabad chasid, who abused her. She left the charedi world but maintains religious observance. Her father has cut off contact with her.

When she first learned about about surrogacy, she knew that it might be for her. She had easy and uneventful pregnancies. She had seen the suffering of an infertile aunt and several friends. Koren found the idea of carrying a baby for another couple as the greatest chesed (kindness) possible.

An agency sent her a couple in their 50′s and Koren clicked with them. They each signed a contract. Koren kept them informed about everything to do with her pregnancy, and only asked that they not interfere with her lifestyle. At the last minute they requested that Koren undergo a c-section, feeling it would be safer, but Koren refused and had a regular, uneventful delivery. The nurse planned to put the baby on Koren, but Koren told her to give the baby to the intended (now legal) parents. When asked whether she had any desire to keep the sweet baby with her, Koren answered, “No. I felt that I had come to fulfill a task and I accomplished it as best as I possibly could, zehu, and now I needed to let it go.”

Both surrogate and legal mothers in  a surrogacy arrangement received maternity leave.

Surrogate motherhood became legal in Israel in 1996. The woman must be between 22 and 38, unmarried, and have given birth to between one and three children. Rabbi  Shlomo Amar gave permission for a married woman to become a surrogate mother under certain conditions. But this is discourages, because a man might theoretically  pressure his wife to undergo surrogacy for the financial reward. The child of a married woman could also be considered a mamzer under Jewish law.

Riki earned NIS 150,000 for the birth. Her ex-husband accused her of selling her body, but she felt that the compensation for her time, risk, physical and suffering, was necessary. She has to put her life on hold for a year, including a search for a marriage partner.

image: Håkan Dahlström

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Help wanted: Men to serve on the rabbinic court to supervise immersion of conversion candidates.

Producer Nirit Yaakovs-Yinon, a religious Jewish woman, got interested in the concerns of female conversion candidates after hearing about the job description above from a friend who worked in the Israeli government.

Both male and female converts to Judaism are required to immerse in a mikveh, or ritual bath, as the final step toward becoming a Jew. When women immerse before their weddings and monthly thereafter, another woman supervises to ensure that the woman immersing is completely under the water.

But according to Jewish law, the three members of the male-only court must witness the immersion performed for conversion. It’s not enough for the woman accompanying the candidate to tell the rabbis that the woman has immersed.

Members of a rabbinic court ask the candidate about his or her sincerity regarding Jewish law, just before the immersion.

Yaakovs-Yinon spoke with conversion candidates adopted by her learned that female candidates for conversion enter the water in a flimsy robe. She spoke to converts about their experiences. This eventually led to an exhibit called “Story of a Woman and a Robe, which Ynet reviewed recently. (Hebrew).

Sharon Shapiro, the blogger formerly known as Frumhouse explains in her new blog Kol b’Isha Erva that a similar problem exists for conversion candidates in the United States.

At the same time, the Israeli robe is much more tznius [modest] than the garment that appears to be standard in most orthodox American conversions, which literally is a sheet with a hole in it. The sheet is a large and unwieldy piece of fabric whose purpose is to fan out above the water once the convert dunks under. However, often the sheet sticks to some part of the body or fans out in a lopsided way, thus exposing a view of naked flesh to the rabbis above.

Sharon asked me if I had ever heard of this issue, and indeed I recall a radio talk show on the topic a couple of years ago. It may have been the forerunner to this exhibit. Because Israel encourages immigrants of non-Jewish or questionable Jewish status to convert, with 14 conversion institutes, the difficulties faced by potential converts often make the news.

Sharon’s own conversion was unusual because her birth mother, as well as her adoptive parents, were Jewish. But her birth father wasn’t, and the rabbi she consulted quoted an outlying opinion requiring conversion for the children of a non-Jewish father. He said a conversion would prevent problems in the future.

I highly recommend Sharon’s poignant story: Three Men and a Mikvah Part I and Part II.

More on conversion procedures from the organization Itim.

Photo by Rahel Jaskow

Rabbi Shmuel Rabinovich, the rabbi in charge of the Kotel (Western Wall), said last week that he intends to enlarge the women’s section of the Western Wall.

Photographer Rahel Jaskow documented the poor conditions for women in two photo essays, Separate and Unequal at the Western Wall and Return to the Western Wall, Passover 2013.

Rabbi Rabbinovich brought up the plans at a joint meeting with the committee on internal affairs and the committee on the advancement of women at the Knesset, during a discussion of the Women of the Wall.

“The reality is that the women’s section is narrow and does not manage to contain all of the female worshippers. We are checkout out a solution, and there is a big chance that the women’s section will be enlarged. As for the mehitza (partition)—I agree that it is not respectful that women should stand on chairs to see their sons called up to the Torah [for a bar mitzvah]. Therefore we built a women’s section in the inside prayer hall, at the Kotel Tunnels, with one-way glass, through which women can see everything. We also intend to create a mehitza in the outside plaza so that everyone will be able to see without violating halacha (Jewish law). We have brought in experts who will find a solution, and I hope that within a month there will be a respectable mehitza that does not violate halacha. As for the Women of the Wall I request that at the Wall, they will not change the minhag hamakom (local custom). When you change the local custom, then you get many requests from the other side. The court has issued a ruling. Therefore there is a discussion in the Justice Ministry and the government secretary.

For the one or two readers not following the story: The court ruled that the prayer group known as “Women of the Wall” are not violating the law by their monthly prayer group in the women’s section of the plaza, even if they are wearing prayer shawls and phylacteries traditionally worn only by men during prayer. Hopefully the ruling will put an end to that part of the controversy.

Rahel responds:

To my mind, the issues are related but not identical. Group worship by women in the women’s section is one thing; the space allotted to women at the Western Wall is another.

Has Rabbi Rabinovich been in that balcony space? There’s a cleaning-supply closet right there, and men are allowed inside. Very undignified and disrespectful, in my opinion: the cleaning supplies should be kept elsewhere, and men should not be allowed in the women’s section.

From that enclosed balcony (with one-way glass and curtains), women can listen to bar-mitzva services through earphones. My photo shows the earphone jacks available.

In my opinion, Rabbi Rabinovich isn’t going to do anything new or worth getting excited about. I hope I’m mistaken.

This post was originally published in 2008, but is still relevant for many parents. Sadly two readers who commented here, Helene and RivkA, passed away within the last few years.

It’s bound to happen at one time or another when you are out with your toddler. Your neighbor asks you the question you were wondering yourself earlier that day, as you tried to talk on the phone while your son climbed the bookcase: “Isn’t he bored at home with you all day? How old is he again? [Insert any age here.] Shouldn’t he be in a misgeret?”

In honor of my 4-year-old starting gan in a few weeks (we did have an informal two-child playgroup, technically a misgeret I suppose), I share my answers to the suppositions of nosy and rude advice-givers. They don’t deserve a reply. But at times we must address concerns of family members, or, more likely, we ourselves need the reassurance.

• “The child needs to get used to being in gan for half the day.” Or, “She will be behind academically.” When I mentioned to one mother that our three-year-olds would be in gan together the following year, she asked how I could send her when she hadn’t been in gan at age two. According to this theory, children need a year in a misgeret to prepare for the next misgeret.
• [This one is for late talkers.] “Gan will help him learn to talk.” This is just wrong. Children in gan generally spend little time talking one-on-one to an adult. And the less the child communicates through speech, the less verbal attention he is likely to get from teachers. Children develop speaking skills at vastly different ages and unless you have reason to suspect a problem, it’s safe to let them develop at their own pace. Gan will not make a huge difference either way.
• [For olim] “The child needs to learn Hebrew.” Gan-aged, immigrant children still have plenty of time to become fully bilingual. But language is a balance. If your child spends most of her day in a Hebrew-speaking environment, her English vocabulary will be smaller. And vice versa. You can teach him Hebrew yourself, or make playdates with Hebrew-speaking children, to ease the transition. But immigrants to all countries have survived the experience; emotional maturity is more important than language. [My daughter is concerned about this despite more than adequate Hebrew skills.]
• “He needs to play with children his own age.” I question this assumption “milechat’hilah.” The younger the child, the less equipped to compete with others for the attention of adults. Since making aliyah the age of starting group care has lowered, while time spent in care increased. Children learn social skills mainly from their parents, and they can play with other children while parents are present. If all neighborhood children are in gan, they can meet in the afternoon or on weekends. They don’t need thirty hours a week away from parents to learn cooperative play. Unfortunately, preschool for fewer hours is unheard of in Israel. (Let me qualify that–I heard of a gan run by the city of Tel Aviv where you can leave a child on a drop-off basis.)
• “Immigrant children need to develop a tough, Israeli exterior.” (I mentioned this here.) Okay, but at what cost? I read of a doctoral student who spent months observing three-year-olds in an Israeli gan. She reported of a complex social structure that included children bringing treats to appease bullies. The children’s teachers remained unaware. When put into such an environment children may learn healthy ways of defending themselves. Others become aggressive, or conversely, withdrawn.
• “Aren’t you bored?” Mothers are supposed to be doing adult activities, not playing games all day with their children. (See my next point.)
• “Do you sit with her?” I get this all the time; they are asking whether I use worksheets or teach letters and numbers. (I visited a highly-recommended gan where three-year-olds did worksheets each day.) The short answer is no; I enjoy a loose daily structure. We read, play, color, go to the park, run errands, do chores, and meet other mothers and children. The children who are interested pick up letters, numbers and even reading. They play by themselves a good deal of the time while I do “adult” things. In turn, I expect frequent interruptions.
• “Your child is too shy/aggressive/wild/attached to you/disobedient/spoiled/slow/bossy. It’s because you don’t send him to gan.” Children develop differently and have personality challenges, even the ones who attend gan. Who doesn’t? But if you keep your child home, you will be blamed for those issues.

Over a million American children are being homeschooled for elementary or high school. Surely that puts keeping a two-, three-, or four-year-old at home for another year in perspective.

(I wish I didn’t need to add this caveat: I am not trying to convince parents to keep their kids out of gan, or quit their jobs. I do wish to support parents struggling with this issue.)

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Hi Hannah, I had a question in response to your last post about the formula options promoted by the Ministry of Health.  I’m due to give birth to my third child in the next few weeks (in Jerusalem, G-d willing) by elective c-section.

I exclusively breastfed both of my older children for over a year, but I remember from past experience that right after my c-section it was very difficult for me to get up in the middle of the night to go get my baby for breastfeeding, so, feeling left with no alternative, I told the nurses to give the babies one bottle during the night and the rest of the time I would only breastfeed. After a c-section, the nurses are willing to bring the baby into your room for breastfeeding, but refuse to do so during the night. You have to get up yourself.

Since then (my last birth was six years ago) I have become more informed of all the intestinal issues and unbalanced flora in the gut that can start with that first bottle of formula and, this time around, would really like to breastfeed exclusively at the hospital. However, I am concerned that the night feeding will be too much for me to do right after the surgery. My reasoning at the time was that it was a matter of only one bottle a day (for 4-5 days, after which I would only breastfeed upon arriving home) vs. maternal well-being and recovery, as I found it too exhausting after the surgery and really needed my rest. This time, however, I really feel strongly about ensuring a “virgin gut” and would like to avoid any bottles whatsoever, if possible. Then again, am I being too “fanatic” at the expense of my recovery?

A cesarean section is major surgery, and mother’s recovery is important for the whole family. The baby’s health is equally important. Hospitals shouldn’t force mothers to choose between a long trek and exclusive breastfeeding. The hospital policy is the problem, not your desire to be with your baby! In some hospitals, including in Israel, mothers who so choose can have their babies back in their room within a few hours after birth until discharge, including at night.

People like to place their preferred positions in the middle, and label anything that greatly diverges in either direction as “fanatic.” You are simply trying to follow current health recommendations for exclusive breastfeeding.

Once the mother has woken up after surgery, the anesthesia in her system is no longer a concern. Most pain medications are also compatible with breastfeeding. Mothers will vary as to how soon after birth they feel ready to care for their babies and how much help they will need with breastfeeding.

While a few hospitals encourage the baby to be with the mother at all times, including after a c-section, other don’t allow the babies out of the nursery during the night. If a mother has had surgery or has any condition that makes her less mobile, she must find a creative way to be with the baby. Breastfeeding or not, babies belong with their mothers whenever possible.  Here are a few ideas:

1. Get help.  Perhaps you know a neighbor or a relative, even for pay, who would be willing to spend the night, or part of the night, in the hospital with you.  Confirm that the hospital will allow the person to bring the baby to you, with your signed permission.
2. Choose a different hospital. If possible, choose a hospital that allows rooming in after a c-section.
3. Consider pumping for night feeds. Express by hand or with a manual or electric pump, so that the nurses can give your milk to the baby instead of breastmilk substitutes. In the early days, when the amount of colostrum is small, express by hand into a syringe.
   
4. Communicate with the staff. Even before birth,  be assertive about your desire to have a good recovery while continuing to nurse your baby. The hospital might be able to find an orderly to bring you to the nursery in a wheelchair, or have a nurse bring you the baby. It’s also possible that the policy has changed since your last birth.

Readers: If you had a c-section in an Israeli hospital, did you have free access to the baby after birth? If hospital policy made it difficult for you to breastfeed, were you able to get around the policy? The reader is planning to give birth in Shaarei Tzedek hospital in Jerusalem.

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This advice came to mind when I read that  the Israeli health ministry, as stated back in June, will now be requiring maternity wards to offer two competing brands of breastmilk substitutes for newborns. Shoes and powdered milk are very different products, but both are sold using manipulative marketing tactics.

Until now, the companies paid huge sums for exclusive distribution within each hospital. Because mothers stick to the brand they got after birth, smaller companies, who can’t afford the initial outlay, failed to break into the market. This is blamed for the high price of substitutes compared to other countries.

The health ministry claims that “this is a revolution in the marketing of substitutes expected to encourage competition and the interest of the new mother in her preferred breastmilk substitutes and therefore the reduction of prices in the market. The health ministry will check the results of the reform in six months and decide on the required steps.”

Breastmilk substitutes are overpriced, but just because parents insist on buying the hospital’s suggested brand instead of buying a cheaper one (or breastfeeding) doesn’t mean there is a true duopoly (two brands out of four dominate the market). Still, the antitrust authority has decided to target the companies in an attempt to open up the market. Ironically, the drug company Teva’s new brand stands to gain the most. Why the the anti-trust authority need to help Teva, the largest generic drug manufacturer in the world, remains an open question.

All brands contain the required amounts of proteins, fats, vitamins and minerals needed to sustain a baby’s growth. Extras like oligosaccharides or probiotics increase the price,  but do not lead to healthier or smarter babies. Studies have shown that use of breastmilk substitutes increase health risks for both mothers and babies.

The companies, while losing the exclusivity that guaranteed them customers for many months, have thus been granted the opportunity to extol their products to new mothers in the guise of helping her make an “informed” choice. But shouldn’t the health ministry be focusing on encouraging breastfeeding? By encouraging exclusive contracts, whether with one company or two, they are normalizing bottle-feeding in the hospital. The hospital should pay for the bottles of breastmilk substitutes, just like they pay for other supplies.

I’m wondering exactly when the mothers will need to proclaim their choice. You may remember the public uproar at the proposed law suggesting mothers sign a waiver before the hospital gives the baby a bottle, because the form might make mothers feel guilty. No one asks whether parents will feel guilty for signing permission to give a medication or vaccination. Bottles and breastmilk substitutes are an intervention that interferes with normal physiological processes, and parents need to understand the risks. Will mothers now get a form to check off their preferred brand? Or perhaps the limited amount of time with a nurse will be squandered on a pointless discussion about the advantages of the competing brands, instead of learning the baby’s cues or how to know that the baby is getting enough to eat.

According to Calcalist magazine:

An official in the health system expressed concern that the competition between distributors will trickle down into the hospitals, and distributors will use unethical marketing methods to get mothers to choose their brand of breastmilk substitute. “We’ll be playing a game of cops and robbers,” said the official. “It’s a market that generates so much money — the companies will fight using both legitimate methods, and not-so- legitimate methods. The problem is that we are bringing this battle into the delivery rooms.”

The health ministry’s website states that the goal of this  is to encourage new companies to compete in the market. Yet by marketing the plan as a way to lower prices and give mothers a choice, it’s pretending to do a public service. The website fails to mention the NIS 3.5 million it will receive from companies supplying breastmilk substitutes to those hospitals it directly supervises.

Just like the shoe salesperson, the health ministry misleads parents by making false assumptions about choice. But the ministry should not be viewing mothers and their newborn babies as potential customers. They deserve the highest standard of medical care, including the conditions, knowledge and support to enable them to reach a full six months of exclusive breastfeeding as recommended by our ministry and the World Health Organization. This decision is far from revolutionary when it comes to protecting mothers and babies. By focusing on the choice between brands, the health ministry undermines breastfeeding and compromises the health of newborns.

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